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When who you are is not embracing who you want to be

Simple insights creating surprising shifts

I have designed this book because I believe that it is worth the coach and coachee understanding more about the concept of reflexive hindering, especially as the responses created by it can feel unquestionable and innate. Part 1 is written for coaches and coachees. It covers the infographic and the information underlying each of its elements. Part 2 is written for coaches and is intended to help them successfully use the infographic with their coachees to achieve the same benefits that the executive coaches achieved with their coachees during the research.

Contents:

Part 1:

  • Infographic to use with a coachee – the four sections
  • Reflexive hindering – definition and how it manifests in coaching
  • ‘Be realistic about your brain’ – Infographic section in detail
  • ‘Our responses are influenced by our past experiences and neurobiology’ – Infographic section in detail
  • ‘Change is possible and takes commitment’ – Infographic section in detail

Part 2:

  • What can help to change the situation – MERE Coaching Conversations

Mastering
Enabling
Realising
Embedding

  • References and other resources

How to use this book:

Using Part 1 – coach and coachee

Pages 4-11 are the four infographic sections and are for the coach to use with their coachee during the coaching session.

Pages 12-35 give the information underlying each element on the infographic. This is the information the coach will want to have familiarised themselves with and it can be useful for the coachee to reread these pages afterwards.

Using Part 2 – coach

Pages 36-38 overview of the MERE Coaching Conversation steps.

Pages 39-43 go through each step. They contain tips and advice on how make the infographic-based conversation insightful and valuable to a reflexively-hindered coachee.

References & other resources

Page 44 suggests resources that give a useful overview of the brain, the field of neuroscience and reflexive hindering. There are a number of books, articles, websites, etc listed here and they are a thought-provoking read in many ways.

Pages 45-47 list the specific references supporting each element of the infographic. They also contain a variety of other pertinent resources that bring the element to life, including videos, articles, online talks, websites, etc.

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It gave me a wider understanding of neuroscience generally. If I was to say my normal use of neuroscience in coaching adds six out of ten to the coaching experience, I thinks this made it add eight to nine out of ten.

And I found myself talking about neuroscience in a richer context than I had ever done before.

Executive Coaching
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I would actually say to a future coachee, “this is to help you see things from a different perspective, looking at yourself from a removed person to a third person perspective, so it helps you to realise how you can bring about changes”.

I think it makes coaching faster and more compelling actually when people can see their own neurobiological patterning coming through like that.

Executive Coach
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It’s a complete thing that makes it very real, the fact that it’s this story that you go through; it’s a story, it’s not individual facts. It’s got a beginning, middle and an end. This is fascinating about the brain.

For me this whole model is about understanding your brain and understanding what’s going on.

Executive Coach
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This worked really well to allow them to open up, maybe more than they might have done without it. It’s an assumption of mine, but it seemed to give them permission, with very much ease to be able to talk to it from their own experience.

It was very thought provoking for the coachee, and it triggered a lot of different avenues … there was so many ‘aha’ moments.

Executive Coach
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It really added value. I think it’s very clear that there’s a lot of actual factual information, data, hard data in this. But it’s data that’s been pulled together with a view to understanding how brains change.

All the information is on a level suitable for most clients and it makes sense because you relate it back to the brain and back to the facts.

Executive Coach
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